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Archive for October 2016

“Often our mistakes, or criticisms we have received from loved ones, can lead to a loss of self-esteem. We become distant from others, avoiding affection and fearful in our interpersonal relationships. Blaming others becomes falsely reassuring. We need to learn to pray over our past history, to accept ourselves, to learn how to live with our limitations, and even to forgive ourselves, in order to have this same attitude towards others.” (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #107).


“Every mistake or lapse on the part of a spouse can harm the bond of love and the stability of the family. Something is wrong when we see every problem as equally serious; in this way, we risk being unduly harsh with the failings of others. The just desire to see our rights respected turns into a thirst for vengeance rather than a reasoned defense of our dignity.” (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #105).

“My advice is never to let the day end without making peace in the family. And how am I going to make peace? By getting down on my knees? No! Just by small gestures, a little something, and harmony within your family will be restored. Just a little caress, no words are necessary. But do not let the day end without making peace in your family.” (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #104).

“To be open to a genuine encounter with others, ‘a kind look’ is essential. This is incompatible with negative attitude that readily points out other people’s shortcomings while overlooking one’s own. A kind look helps to see beyond our own limitations, to be patient and to cooperate with others, despite our differences.”  (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #100).

“Love abhors making others suffer. Courtesy is a school of sensitivity and disinterestedness which requires a person to develop his or her mind and feelings, learning how to listen, to speak and, at certain times, to keep quiet.”  (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #99)

“Unless we cultivate patience, we will always find excuses for responding angrily. We will end up incapable of living together, antisocial, unable to control our impulses, and our families will become battlegrounds.” (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #92)

“Love… is marked by humility; if we are to understand, forgive and serve others from the heart, our pride has to be healed and our humility must increase…. In family life, the logic of domination and competition about who is the most intelligent or powerful destroys love.” (Pope Francis, The Joy of Love, #98)